Only child + one
“He’s a baby, we have to spend alot of time with him.” Says part time dad to 1st son
“But you spend way more time with him than me.”
I can’t argue this, and was waiting for this revelation to happen. I didn’t have anything prepared, but I was waiting, none the less.
“Well, again, he’s a baby. He needs a lot more…”
“Love?”
“No, buddy, I can’t love anyone more than I love you.”
“Your heart would explode?”
“Yep.”
So…we had a hard weekend. Not bad, just hard. It was the first weekend with Jack and Tony. Sarah was getting over the mastitis. By the way, Did you know that something…let’s call it the dead duct…comes out of the nipple once it dies? Wow, where’s that in “What to expect…”? It’s probably in there, I just didn’t finish the book. So, anyway, Jack was very needy. “Dad, do you want to play game cube?”"Dad, do you wanna watch cartoons in my room?”"Dad, do you want to watch me play game cube?”"Dad, do you wanna watch me watch cartoons in my room?”We played lots of Nintendo. We got a hair cut and went to Pet Smart. We also built a ginger bread house. But if I left him for 14 seconds, he was on my heals.
I want him not to feel like he’s lost any position in this house. But how. There’s a full time residence here now. And it’s a baby who needs much more attention than a 7 year old. I know he was wearing Sarah’s nerve to a raw nub. Mine as well. But I don’t know how to play the game any other way. I felt I needed to give him lots of attention, but where is the line. I talked with, as I took him home, about needing to let us have a little down time when he’s here. He said he understood. He’s also a 7 year old.
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