I wanted one of both…
My son…my oldest son…is very excited about his brother. We called him soon after the doctor’s office.
“Cool” was his response.”Very cool.”
He ask some questions, but not many. We talk to him about what’s going on. He’s always interested in how big the baby is. We usually try to come up with something familiar to compare to the baby’s size, such as a plum, banana, base ball. He knows the baby is 50 times smaller than him in weight.
He told his mom he “wanted one of both” after we told him we were having a boy. I guess we never went into the “only one in there” talk with him.
He’s got a great sense of humor about it. “Sticks and Stuff Comer” was his latest name suggestion. I think it’s copyrighted.
I love my son. He’s an amazing little boy. I hope that Sarah and I can raise lil peep and Jack together to be great brothers. I’m a little nervous about that. I want Jack to know that this house is as much his as any-one’s. That is going to be the hard part.
Any suggestions? How do you we create a home for our new son that allows Jack to feel like he’s as big of a part of it?
July 26th, 2007 at 8:11 pm
I always felt welcome in my dad’s home, but rarely in my mom’s home. And I LIVED with my mom. The difference? My mom always dated/married guys who didn’t really want my sister and I around. My dad married a sweet, kind, generous woman who appreciated that he loved my sister and I because she knew he would be a good father to THEIR children. It sounds like you’ve already covered that base with Sarah, so you are golden in that area.
My dad and stepmom have always pushed doing family things together. My dad lives for when all of us kids are together. We also celebrate ALL holidays and birthdays together, even if we can’t on the actual days. For example, we always celebrate Thanksgiving with my dad and stepmom on the Friday evening after. It’s tradition now.
While it would be easy to suggest all the fun things you can do together as a family, my favorite memories at my dad and stepmom’s are the ones of us just playing, eating meals and watching TV.
The one thing I would suggest doing differently than my dad is still carving out alone time for you and Jack to do things together. Because there is such an emphasis on family, I don’t get a lot of alone time with my dad.
November 4th, 2007 at 10:18 pm
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