Ex-mas
I know we are months away from Christmas…oh wait…crap…
Anyway, this morning I was dropping the Binja off at day care and over heard a conversation between daycare worker and another parent.
“So, are you ready for Christmas?” the daycare worker asked. “Have you even begun shopping yet.”
“Well luckily, I don’t have to worry about that this year. The boys will be with their dad.” She replied. “I will have them next year for Bobby’s 2nd
Christmas. That will be more fun anyway.”
Hmmm…My initial reaction was…”WHAT?” I realize that not every divorced couple is as cooperative as my ex and I, but come on. Not doing anything for your kids just because they are “not with you” that day is not ok. We always try to share the day. And even if I didn’t see Jack at all on the 25th, we would still find a way to include him in our Christmas.
Of course, I don’t know the whole story. Maybe they have other issues that would keep them from being able to work something out. I really can’t fathom what in a divorce situation would keep you from getting a gift for your children. Even if it’s just stocking type stuff. Socks. Something.
Am I being too judgmental? Is there something I could be overlooking? AND, why would you say that out loud? Want to know what I heard?
“I’m a selfish parent who is dumping all gift responsibilities on my good for nothing ex. Why should I worry about it?”
November 15th, 2008 at 8:41 pm
I don’t think you’re being judgmental. That comment was dismissive and detached. I can’t think why you wouldn’t want to celebrate Christmas with your kids even if the child is only 1; it’s still fun for the parent (it is for the kid too who usually enjoys the paper more than the gift).
December 19th, 2008 at 2:06 pm
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